I’ve been thinking about the path I will go down later in life, that of becoming a single mother. Every day I become more sure that marriage isn’t for me, but I still get freaked out about becoming a single mom. What if something happens to me? Who will take care of the baby?
Today I did some research into co-parenting with another person/couple to see if that would be a route that would work for me. There were the usual articles along the lines of, “I did this and this and it was horrible” as there are with all alternative parenting techniques, trying to warn people away. It would definitely be a huge decision that I would have to make with people that I’ve known for a long time and trust completely. Then, things could still go south and there could be a custody battle that would entrench us into a legal system that has not adapted to these new types of families. So back to square one. Becoming a single mother, ensuring a stable, loving home, and no court dates and legal fees and custody arrangements.
I only toyed with the idea for a few days before researching it though, so maybe I shouldn’t come to a decision yet. It would be nice to find another person to raise the child with, but that I didn’t have to live with and be romantic with. I’m no good at romantic relationships, and I can’t imagine trying to raise a child and keep a partner happy at the same time. I would probably end up the unhappy one.
I think it’s funny when people say that the best people to raise a child are a married couple. They think the child will see how loving relationships work, and these co-parents and single parents won’t be able to do that. I was raised by married parents and I still can’t handle relationships. Married couples are not guaranteed to raise well adjusted children, so give these single parents and co-parents some slack for trying their best!
Ok, I said my piece.
Becoming a single mom is going to be scary, but I’m going to have to get over that. Nothing that’s easy is worth doing, isn’t that what people say? Or they say that if your dreams don’t scare you, then you aren’t dreaming big enough. Something like that.